Tag: Narcissistic Personality

Narcissists do not own the psychological darkness they create in the lives of others—-grandiose manipulations, betrayals, malicious cruelties. The narcissist is a human tornado, wreaking psychological, emotional and physical havoc wherever he or she goes. Most people are unable to “hear” the warning signals of the oncoming funnel cloud descending on them. They haven’t built protective emotional shelters for themselves. They thought they were safe with the narcissist despite so many warning sirens. . Those who throw their fates in with the narcissist are deluded by him or her, leaving themselves psychologically vulnerable and emotionally disarmed.

Why would the spouses, partners and friends of narcissists trust them? They believe that the narcissist is genuine and if not completely perfect, they excuse his human frailties. The narcissist burnishes his image, presenting himself as a “Good Person.” He is blind to his deceptions and cruelties. His purpose is to set the straightest course possible to satiate his strong appetites for power, control, adulation and monetary rewards.

Here and there, at strategic moments, the narcissist displays a pseudo empathy and understanding that puts the other person off guard. There are kindnesses and gifts of attention and monetary compensations, sprinkled like tiny diamonds on black velvet. They sparkle and dazzle, blinding the insightful eye. Narcissists join charitable organizations and act the humanitarian role. Donating to these institutions is part of their public image as a “compassionate human being.” No one dares to question the purpose of their generosity.

Those who finally wake up to the fact that the narcissist is not a “good person” but a severe personality disorder are the fortunate ones that realize that their lives have been hijacked, their identities stolen. As they tread the path away from the narcissist, they feel freer, lighter, more energetic and peaceful. They were captive birds now thrown to the skies to soar, glide and celebrate their true natures.Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
email:lmlphd@gmail.com

Divorcing a narcissist is never easy. That is why so many women and men decide not to take that final step. It feels cataclysmic, like the movement of the tectonic plates along the ring of fire. There are terrors that the molten earth will open and swallow them up. A high powered narcissist, armed with the instruments of his/her power, influence and monetary resources makes the specter of a marital uncoupling loom like a ritual of being drowned and revived in an endless cycle of torture and brief reprieve.

Those who remain married to a narcissist are being abused on many levels whether they are conscious of it or not. Their children are often more aware of the hypocrisy and chaos of the marriage than the narcissist’s partner. The partner is in a state of massive denial. He or she complains, has insomnia, physical symptoms, anxiety attacks, migraines, digestive disorders —-a variety of painful symptoms punctuated by brief awakenings that this arrangement cannot work and is psychologically injurious to her/him and the children. But the voice of denial holds strong and fixed.

Shame speaks loudly in your ear: “It is shameful to be alone; I am ashamed about not leading my accustomed lifestyle; people, even my friends, will think that I am a failure because I have lost my social and economic status.” Many partners equate their lifestyle with their value as an individual. This is a vital part of the personal shame that infiltrates them. It began when they were small children through the chronic neglect, abuse, and cruelties of their parent(s). They experienced constant humiliations perpetrated by mother or father. Other children in the family, some of them narcissists, constantly bullied and terrorized this more sensitive, fragile sibling while the parents turned the other way, ignoring these sadistic behaviors. The psychological residue for a child growing up in these circumstances is a feeling of chronic shame and unworthiness. ” I am bad, unwanted, not worthy”. This is the message the child internalizes and becomes an integral part of his identity.

Marrying a narcissist is an attempt to cover this childhood wound. At first it appears to work. The partner is dazzled by the tremendous self confidence and success of the narcissist who has swept them up to a much better place. As the relationship seasons, the marital house of cards crumbles. The narcissist’s mask of charm and irresistibility, tears, exposing the dark core: a manipulative, selfish, exploitive human being who must be catered to and adored or all hell breaks loose. These moments of revelation of who the narcissist really is and the deleterious effect he or she is having on us, are a transformative opportunity, a gift for making a decision to sever the toxic bond and reclaim your self respect, your peace, your creativity, your entitlement and your power.

Sometimes in life we save ourselves by taking a longer higher leap than we could have imagined in the past. We personally prepare, research the divorce process, find an excellent psychotherapist, gather a supportive network around us, and then propel ourselves forward to land on firm ground to reclaim ourselves. As a result we leave the heavy burden of the personal shame we have carried so long. With renewed strength, we search the horizon, quicken our step, and follow the wide open road ahead. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
email:lmlphd@gmail.com

Narcissistic personalities have an ingrained, fixed personality disorder that is very unlikely to change. Their core psychological issues are secured by powerful defense mechanisms and are inaccessible to them. Since they are continually rewarded for their grandiosity, ruthless ambition, and lack of consideration for others, why should they change? They demand perfection and alteration from those who live and work for them. The narcissist feels perfect down to his bones. Any mistakes or misjudgments that are made, he/she lays at the feet of those closest to him: spouses, partners, family members, friends. With an inflated ego, a merciless drive, and overwhelming self-confidence, many narcissists excel in the world and enjoy tremendous material success. They create circles of admirers and followers who continually provide them with the soothing unguents they crave.

Besides their addiction to alcohol, most alcoholics have severe personality disorders which would certainly conflict with treatment for their alcoholism. To even try and get them to go to rehab, it would have to be something like a luxury experience in Hawaii going to The Ohana center. If you offered them a state funded center, they’d probably decline because of their personality disorder and thinking they’re too good for the place. They are addicted to alcohol in part due to severe psychopathology attached to these disorders, including extreme feelings of abandonment, severe depression, panic disorder, frequent anxiety attacks and disassociative reactions. Over time and with an inherited predisposition, the alcoholic develops an overwhelming tolerance to this drug. His/her life revolves around consuming alcohol and it affects every aspect of their life, for example, their ability to drive, as there is only so much a DUI Defense Attorney can achieve if the evidence is stacked against you.

Alcoholism can have devastating consequences, not just for the addict, but for family and friends affected by the consequences of binge drinking. Pacific Ridge Residential Alcohol and Drug Treatment Center is one example of a rehabilitation facility that might be able to offer help and support for families in need as a result of a loved one’s alcohol addiction.

Furthermore, there are distinct differences in the psychodynamics and physiological roots between the alcoholic and the narcissist. I am pointing out the intractable nature of these disorders. No one can change the alcoholic but himself and no one can shift the personality of the narcissist except himself or herself.

Below is a familiar painful scenario of what a child of an alcoholic parent suffers hundreds, even thousands of times, wishing, waiting and hoping that their mother or father will change:

“It is the eternal wish of the child to wait with fragile hope that this time mom (or dad) will stop drinking. After all the binging, impulsive behaviors, drunken outbursts, physical blows, public embarrassments, middle of the night forays, the body of the alcoholic gives out. It can ingest no more of the hypnotic brew, the poisonous mother’s milk. Soon, the shakes and tremors erupt in unpredictable cycles. Food is brought to the rescue, water gulped. A few days go by and the eye of the storm has passed over. There are renewed promises and pronouncements of a different course. Everyone must be disciplined now, even the smallest child must learn to march in perfect cadence. The alcoholic is shaky and spent. He or she attracts pity now rather than scorn. There is an uneasy peace. Will the worm turn this time? Is this the moment of divine grace? Is there a fragment of hope to hold on to? One week, two weeks, three weeks—-Inevitably it begins. This time it is the flu, a cold, a misfortune, a disappointment—the endless litany sounds new. But the pattern is intractable, indelibly printed in the brain and nervous systems and organs, thoughts, feelings, cravings of the alcoholic. The children look at one another, mustering a weakened hope that it will not happen this time, all the while knowing that it is as inevitable as their quivering breaths and nightmare dreams. Shivering against the raw terror and uncertainty, they ask themselves: “Will I survive one more round?”

If you are married to a narcissist or involved in a personal relationship with one, at some point you will wish, believe and demand that this individual change and start treating you with respect , empathy and understanding. Although we carry with us the imprint of our childhood wounds and struggles, as adults we can make wise judgments about continuing or breaking off relationships that are hurtful to us, stunt our personal growth and don’t provide a loving reciprocal relationship. Are you willing to go another round with the narcissist in your life or will you choose freedom, inner peace, and the full flowering of your gifts. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
email:lmlphd@gmail.com

Being married to a narcissist is a painful emotional experience with someone who always puts his/her needs above everyone else. Some spouses know that it was a mistake from the beginning. They cannot pinpoint that this person with whom they share their life is a narcissistic personality. In the beginning most of us are dazzled, almost hypnotized by the narcissistic partner. He or she is often highly accomplished professionally. He has finely honed social skills, radiant self confidence and tremendous drive. There are always clues to the real personality beneath the very attractive package that most people overlook—the self absorption, obsession with the perfect outer image, flashes of rage when you disagree with them, a flurry of demands, cruel remarks thrown out at random. The manipulations, betrayals, lies, subterfuges build up over the months and years. There is a wish on the part of the partner to make the marriage work, especially if children are involved. The non-narcissist keeps looking at herself/himself for fault or deficiency.

Finally, the great divide along the marital road appears. Out of nowhere the narcissistic spouse announces that the marriage is over, the divorce papers have already been filed and he has made specific plans for new living arrangements. The abandoned partner is hit with a massive body blow. The emotional shock is breathtaking. A cycle of disbelief, numbness and confusion begins and mercilessly repeats itself throughout the hours, days and weeks after the divorce. Some people feel that they don’t know who they are anymore. They fear that they have lost their identities. Others believe that this is all an illusion and the narcissist will return and all will be well. Ultimately, reality hits its mark. He is not coming back; he is gone.

Each person awakens from the aftermath of divorcing a narcissist in his or her individual way. One of the most important steps is to be compassionate and patient with yourself—-no recriminations or judgments about what you could have done to save the marriage. You were involved with a person who is incapable of having any intimate relationships. This is your loss and your grief, not theirs. Allow yourself to cry and to grieve this great loss and to be angry, even enraged. Find expression for these powerful feelings through skilled professional therapy, support groups, and close friends who are capable of empathy. In some cases, family can offer valuable support.

Become aware of your basic needs for rest, sleep, and healthy food that will sustain you. Use positive escapes (movies, books on tape, music you love, experiencing Nature. Do not rush. Slow down–pay attention to your breath: inhaling and exhaling in the moment.. If you are physically healthy or have clearance from your doctor, find a mode of exercise that works specifically for you.

What are the essentials of your day? Write them down. If you cannot complete them at first, start with small steps. Say to yourself: I am doing my best. Making the effort counts. I will not make judgments about my performance.

Waking up after a life altering event like a divorce is a process not a product. As you move through each step, you are redefining yourself, re-creating your own unique identity. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Email:lmlphd@gmail.com

High functioning narcissists are exceedingly charming, even electrifying. Their persona of magnetic confidence is hypnotic. If they wield a lot of power in the world, those who work for them treat the narcissist like a superior human being. There isn’t anything a narcissist will not do for someone who will fulfill his/her needs and desires, providing them with a valuable return for their efforts: a lucrative business partnership, a new exciting romantic/ sexual arrangement, phenomenal adulation and praise.

Narcissists have loyalty to no one. A spouse of thirty years is dirt under their feet if he or she decides not to continue the adoration and adulation act. Even when small children are involved, a narcissist will abandon them and leave his wife without financial support with no qualms because he moved into another cycle of life with someone else who will bend completely to his will. This “my way or the highway” approach actually works with some spouses for decades. The embattled spouse becomes ill, lives with insomnia, chronic apprehension and anxiety, the narcissist’s screaming fits, not so secret affairs, constant lies and deceptions. Some spouses are willing to pay the highest price of all to stay with their narcissist. The highest price: their lives!

Other partners decide that they have had enough. They know that the marriage was over a decade ago. They have been planning to leave. Finally, with gathering strength and resolve they take the affirmative steps to sever this toxic relationship. They feel deserving of being the author and director of their own lives. They move forward with firm resolve and a sense of entitlement they are experiencing for the first time. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Each narcissist is unique in his or her inimitable way. We learn a great deal about a person by the way he communicates.
With narcissists there are several styles that stand out. The first is The Screamer. This man or woman always has the volume dial turned to the max, especially when under stress or frustration which is frequent. There is no modulation in sound intensity whether the narcissist is in public or private. Screaming is the most direct route to getting his or her needs and desires met immediately. Although many narcissists are obsessed about their image and would not make a public scene, the Screamer projects his feelings, threats and intimidations without a filter. If he doesn’t get the right table at a restaurant, best theater seat, quickest appointment
he screams bloody murder–wild eyed, face flushed, mouth gaping, body shuddering. He attracts a lot of attention as he communicates: “I want what I want when I want it.” Surprisingly, those involved in the ugly interchange with narcissistic screamers, respond to their requests readily to restore peace and civility. Narcissistic Screamers do not apologize nor are they embarrassed by their inappropriate behaviors. For them, it is only what they want and getting it that matters. After all, they deserve it; they are superior and entitled. The sheer volume and intimidation projected by the enraged narcissistic is enough to make must people cringe and go to their protective corners and acquiesce to the narcissist’s delusional demands.

The Passive Aggressive narcissistic communication style is notable for its seesaw quality. These narcissists are sullen and can go for weeks without speaking a word if they have been crossed or confronted, especially by a spouse. They are masters of the “silent treatment.” This type of narcissist is gifted at “quietly seething.” Everyone in the household is unnerved and disrupted by this behavior but it is difficult to confront and deal with since the narcissist has become and will remain mute until he decides to end his strike. These narcissists often play the victim role, expressing that no one appreciates or understands their problems. In this role, the other spouse often feels guilty that he or she is responsible for the narcissist’s sorry emotional state.

The Covert Operator is the narcissist who juggles a second or third life, beyond the 007’s of the world. These are fine actors, playing many parts skillfully. They are never genuine, even with those close to them-spouses, children, friends. They lead secret lives, cleverly compartmentalizing one from the other. “The narcissist puts his life in neat compartments that are sealed off from one another. He (or she) is able to activate self-identifications of vitality, superiority, success, and power. These are kept separate from the unconscious parts of himself that feel depressed, enraged, empty, and helpless. It is as if one side of the body is unaware of the sensations and activities of the other side. It is not unusual for a narcissistic personality to juggle a series of mistresses and wives with other peripheral affairs as well.” Those who travel widely as part of their professional careers pick up intimate partners for varying lengths of time. Unable to demonstrate fidelity of any kind, they move from one woman or man, looking for sexual excitement rather than emotional intimacy. There is cold calculation in narcissists who are Covert Operators. Some of them return to home base at various times that suit them. They convince spouses that being away is essential to success in their careers. Many spouses are taken in by these fraudulent explanations and stay with their Covert Operators until they are replaced or discarded.

Understanding and learning how to successfully deal with narcissists are powerful tools that will fortify and inform you in handling these complex, pervasive personality disorders of our time. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi,Ph.D.
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Entitled, shameless, supremely arrogant—narcissists get away with almost anything, especially if they wield power, exude charm and are well connected. In their private lives, super narcissists—CEO’s, top entertainers, powerful politicians and upper echelon professionals, write their own tickets, doing whatever they desire and want. They choose marital and romantic partners who cling to them, feed on their delusions of grandeur and ingest massive doses of abuse for unlimited periods of time.

Narcissists are gifted at juggling several partners at once. There is the wife or husband who is chosen for his/her perfect external image, education and professional credential, family heritage and high social standing. Narcissists are skilled handlers, keeping their romantic partners in the air and on the string. Since the narcissist is incapable of genuinely caring about any of these individuals, swinging from one person to the next is effortless and thrilling for them. It’s a game. There are no human attachments or feelings on the narcissist’s part. If one lover or spouse doesn’t work out, there is always someone else, even more desirable and willing to take his/her place. The narcissist is the writer, director, producer and star of his movie. Everyone else is playing the roles defined by the narcissist to ignite and sustain his star power.

High level narcissists have swagger and nerve. Flaunting their carelessness, they are reckless with the feelings of others. If a spouse or lover cannot tolerate the narcissist’s frequent betrayals and abuse, they are shown the door. Narcissists lie to everyone all of the time. They lie to themselves and live in a perpetual state of grandiose delusion. High level narcissists are constantly reinforced in their outrageous behaviors by a society that handsomely rewards those who achieve extraordinary material success, celebrity and power. The current external world, driven by a manic compulsion for continuous excitement and adrenaline driven thrills, fawns on narcissists. Within this paradigm, character, conscience and kindness are faded remnants from a naive, unsophisticated past.

Learning to skillfully identify narcissistic personalities and mastering ways of dealing with them, will reinforce your strong sense of self and protect you from the chaos and suffering that they leave behind. Visit my website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Email:lmlphd@gmail.com

The narcissistic power couple is very much alive and thriving in today’s celebrity obsessed, media saturated culture. We find narcissistic power couples in all professions: entertainment, politics, high tech, medicine, law, the corporate world. The power couple consists of two narcissists who are either married or partnered with one another. The most important aspect of their identity is their tandem perfect image, the dual persona that they present to the world. Narcissistic power couples are often physically very attractive, affluent or very wealthy, grandiose, completely self entitled, glamorous, socially adept, intimately connected
with other high powered individuals and elite groups. Their external persona is riveting. Together they create a synergy that magnetizes people to them. Some individuals become so obsessed that they lead their lives through the narcissistic couple rather than their own. This is evident in the celebrity culture of golden couples. The television outlets, magazine and gossip rags present constant images of the intimate lives of celebrity narcissistic couples. Like professional voyeurs, they ask and answer the most intimate questions about famous entertainers: their sex lives, marriages, miscarriages, pregnancies, infidelities, divorces, plastic surgeries, mental and physical illnesses, alcohol and drug addictions.
Narcissistic power couples are both competitive and complementary to one another. They propel one another to dizzying heights of power, wealth and material acquisitions. With two high level narcissists the glow of their presence is enhanced and the breadth of their power and fame radiates and resonates, cutting a generous wide swath.

Many of these couples have unwritten agreements that each is free to have affairs and liaisons as long as they are discreet. The narcissistic couple is exquisitely skilled at vanquishing their enemies. Together they charm, deceive, seduce and intimidate those who would dare to unseat them. They play both dirty and nice, depending on their mutual goal to control, manipulate and even destroy others.

Narcississtic power couples lead lives that are set apart from most of us. They are whisked off on private helicopters and planes to exclusive venues all over the world. They accumulate greater aggregates of wealth and power because they have intimate contacts with the right people who make sure that their timing for making profits is always precise. God help those who dare to infiltrate and dilute their power or money base. The lawyers and rabid dogs will be set upon them. You could become the intended feast.

The inner world of each member of the narcissistic couple is shallow, vapid, rancorous,without meaning. These individuals are burned out, devoid of human warmth and empathy. Their act is worn, pathetic and inert: a psychological wasteland. Visit my
website:www.thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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email:lmlphd@gmail.com

Narcissists are thrilled by the climb to the top. They have their version of a Himalayan summit in their sites at all times. They push with obsessive focus for entrees into circles of the social elites, access to large veins of accumulated wealth -old and new- lifestyle accoutrements, and raw power that provides them with easy access to the most influential social and economic stratas. These are the individuals who are rules unto themselves and answer to no one. They control each card in the deck and every player at the table.

Some power maneuvers involve several narcissists playing different roles. There are narcissistic men and women who use their extraordinary physical attractiveness and psychological stealth to meet higher level narcissists who will lead them further up the mountain.

In one case a very attractive young man obtained his real estate license during a boom period. He had recently moved to the fringes of a very wealthy enclave. It was his goal to become a multimillionaire in five years. Through his gifts at captivating women with his great looks, easy conversation and seductive nonverbal communication, Rex got invited to parties that many of these exclusive individuals attended. After several unsuccessful forays into elite territories, he met the narcissistic wife of an ancient billionaire. The couple’s relationship was based on her access to his fortune:nothing more. Any emotional intimacy had always been out of the question since they were both narcissists. They were together to enhance his dynastic image so that she could inherit it directly from him. Diana purposely picked an elderly billionaire, knowing that she could lead an undetected secret life. Diana often calculated in her mind the number of months she would have to put up with this human albatross she had hooked on her line.

An exciting distraction from the sterile marriage was her intense physical relationship with Rex. In exchange for sexual favors and making her feel young and vital (Diana was more than twice her lover’s age) Diana introduced Rex to her inner power country club circle. He was on the inside now. Very soon Rex had more well heeled clients than he could manage. In the first two years of his real estate business, he cleared over four million dollars. Rex hired others to ensure that his transactions were closed smoothly. He couldn’t be bothered with picky details; he was a big picture man. Rex’s business/intimate arrangement with Diana spanned five years. In that period Rex kept his promise to himself and became a multimillionaire. Diana’s enfeebled narcissistic husband died, leaving her a bonified billionairess plus.

After Milton’s death, Diana was restless for a different brand of excitement. She arranged to visit one of their homes in Switzerland and stay for a while. She was bored and needed a change of people and culture. With some research and sleuthing, Diana became the fiancee of the scion of an old banking family in Switzerland. Heinz was a billionaire many times over. While the magic was still in the air, Diana married her multibillionaire. This narcissistic woman of many faces and roles had danced her way from one billionaire to the next, flawlessly executing each intricate step in her routine.

Each narcissist in this scenario got what he or she wanted, especially Diana, who choreographed, directed, produced and starred in the performances of her life. For each narcissist, these are performances. They are not real in the sense that there is no emotional or psychological commitment or loving attachment between any of the individuals in these pairings. In many ways they are business transactions, arranged for the purpose of providing each narcissist what he needs to reach his summit. For specific information about how narcissists manipulate the people in their world to achieve their heady goals, create chaos and psychological pain to others and how you can learn to skillfully identify and deal with these highly exploitive individuals, visit my website:www.the narcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation
Email:lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com

Narcissists are thrilled by the climb to the top. They have their version of a Himalayan summit in their sites at all times. They push with obsessive focus for entrees into circles of the social elites, access to large veins of accumulated wealth -old and new- lifestyle accoutrements, and raw power that provides them with easy access to the most influential social and economic stratas. These are the individuals who are rules unto themselves and answer to no one. They control each card in the deck and every player at the table.

Some power maneuvers involve several narcissists playing different roles. There are narcissistic men and women who use their extraordinary physical attractiveness and psychological stealth to meet higher level narcissists who will lead them further up the mountain.

In one case a very attractive young man obtained his real estate license during a boom period. He had recently moved to the fringes of a very wealthy enclave. It was his goal to become a multimillionaire in five years. Through his gifts at captivating women with his great looks, easy conversation and seductive nonverbal communication, Rex got invited to parties that many of these exclusive individuals attended. After several unsuccessful forays into elite territories, he met the narcissistic wife of an ancient billionaire. The couple’s relationship was based on her access to his fortune:nothing more. Any emotional intimacy had always been out of the question since they were both narcissists. They were together to enhance his dynastic image so that she could inherit it directly from him. Diana purposely picked an elderly billionaire, knowing that she could lead an undetected secret life. Diana often calculated in her mind the number of months she would have to put up with this human albatross she had hooked on her line.

An exciting distraction from the sterile marriage was her intense physical relationship with Rex. In exchange for sexual favors and making her feel young and vital (Diana was more than twice her lover’s age) Diana introduced Rex to her inner power country club circle. He was on the inside now. Very soon Rex had more well heeled clients than he could manage. In the first two years of his real estate business, he cleared over four million dollars. Rex hired others to ensure that his transactions were closed smoothly. He couldn’t be bothered with picky details; he was a big picture man. Rex’s business/intimate arrangement with Diana spanned five years. In that period Rex kept his promise to himself and became a multimillionaire. Diana’s enfeebled narcissistic husband died, leaving her a bonified billionairess plus.

After Milton’s death, Diana was restless for a different brand of excitement. She arranged to visit one of their homes in Switzerland and stay for a while. She was bored and needed a change of people and culture. With some research and sleuthing, Diana became the fiancee of the scion of an old banking family in Switzerland. Heinz was a billionaire many times over. While the magic was still in the air, Diana married her multibillionaire. This narcissistic woman of many faces and roles had danced her way from one billionaire to the next, flawlessly executing each intricate step in her routine.

Each narcissist in this scenario got what he or she wanted, especially Diana, who choreographed, directed, produced and starred in the performances of her life. For each narcissist, these are performances. They are not real in the sense that there is no emotional or psychological commitment or loving attachment between any of the individuals in these pairings. In many ways they are business transactions, arranged for the purpose of providing each narcissist what he needs to reach his summit. For specific information about how narcissists manipulate the people in their world to achieve their heady goals, create chaos and psychological pain to others and how you can learn to skillfully identify and deal with these highly exploitive individuals, visit my website:www.the narcissistinyourlife.com

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation
Email:lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com