Narcissistic mothers are one woman armies of human destruction. They
are an elite team of ninja killers of the psyches of their children. One
narcissistic mother does more psychological damage than you can
imagine. I read and hear life stories every day about those who have
survived the narcissistic battles of childhood. One of NM’s cruelest
tactics is turning one child against the other. She will assure her son
that he is the special one and then tell the older daughter that she has
been chosen. After all, she is gorgeous, bright and talented. She pits one child against the other. This highly dysfunctional family is in a state of endless psychological war.
The narcissistic mother ties her psychological twin to herself like an appendage. These children have special privileges, no psychological boundaries, no empathy, no developed conscience. They are sent to the finest schools, showered with praise and adulation, never questioned about their brutal sadistic behavior toward their siblings. Even when “mother” is a witness to these treacheries, she turns a blind eye. For her, the chosen one is the ultimate narcissistic supply.
The golden child learns from mom to taunt and terrorize the other children.
Between the two of them, it is a sinister game—a sadistic one.
In these families it is every child for himself. The brother or sister who
is savvy and has the opportunity, escapes as early as possible. Some
children find other adults whom they trust and help them to move, get
jobs, training, go to college, etc.
As the years go by, hatred between the siblings grows and hardens. The narcissistic
mother remains Ruler of the dissembling process.
You are entitled to rescue yourself from this psychological gulag. Study the narcissistic personality in-depth. Get in touch with your true self, that part of you that that is authentic, genuine and creative. You are entitled to lead your life with grace, inner peace, the full use of your creative gifts.