To protect ourselves from the incredible charm of the high level narcissist it is essential to understand the nature of his/her gifts of beguilement and persuasion.
Quoting from my book Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life paints a clear picture:
“The high-level narcissist is gifted at radiating immense charm when he/she chooses. This magnetic indefinable attribute is invaluable to all human beings. Charm is an energy, a vibration, a contagious optimistic state of mind. Charm beguiles; it can seduce us to do almost anything. The expression “pouring on the charm” has a truthful ring. It is a magic elixir that sets us soaring.”
It is easy for us to get swept up in the enchantment of the high level narcissist’s charm. Often these individuals are quite attractive, they are very confident, so sure of themselves. They pay us just the right compliments, make us feel larger and more significant that we feel inside. We are quickly under the spell of the high level.
In this state we forget for power of our perceptive mind and move along the swift tide of fancy, unfulfilled wishes and the magic of knowing that we can be and have anything we want.
The high level with this magic puts us in a kind of trance that removes our doubts and fears. The high level is making us believe that we can be and have anything we want—at this moment.
Those who hitch a ride on the high level narcissists merry go round are in for a rough ride.
Behind closed doors with the hl narcissist the ugly, cruel, vile shadow of the narcissist is revealed in full. You are the recipient of the primitive projections, recriminations, humiliations of our partner.
The hl imposes his iron grip of control on you —-insisting that your mirror him or her perfectly. You are victimized and betrayed cruelly.
The high level’s act is so seamless that those outside of your partnership would never suspect that you are involved with such a cruel, controlling, lying, raging person.
Many of you have sustained this form of high level narcissistic abuse for years and decades.
There is a time of awakening when you both recognize the true nature of the high level narcissist and know that you can and must separate from this highly abusive individual. You are reclaiming your rights to grow, thrive and evolve according to your own
Deep wisdom and respect for your incredible individuality together with your many unique creative gifts.
You move forward along your own pathway. Be proud of yourself for your perseverance, psychological and emotional stamina and spiritual strength. What an accomplishment!
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.