Partnerships with High Level Narcissists Eclipse Your Individuality

Partnerships with High level narcissists eclipse your individuality

Reading from my book: freeing yourself from the narcissist in your life:Provides a perspective on this process and how it affects you:

“Those who live closely with a narcissist – wives, husbands, partners, children are required to be false to themselves. They learned in early childhood that it was unsafe to feel and express the full range of their emotions, even to think their own thoughts… Deep inside they feel inadequate and worthless…”

The capacity to feel deeply requires a psychological sureness and groundedness. When a person can cry freely, laugh heartily, or become justifiably angry, he lives fully, he embraces his humanity.

“Unexpressed and unremembered feelings do not disappear…”

They voice themselves in our thoughts, dreams, sensations and actions, in the functions of our bodies. Many people become ill as a result of embedded emotions. …The body always states the truth…

Those who live with narcissists, particularly spouses, rob themselves of vital opportunities to develop their unique creative gifts

They set aside their talents, drives and dreams to spend huge amounts of time and energy at the disposal of narcissistic partners.”

The high level narcissist always has an agenda for himself/herself and for you.  He knows exactly what he wants from you  — to begin with  — total compliance, which includes veneration, perfect mirroring, the perfection of your image, the exploitation of your creativity, your perpetual devotion to his grandiose false selves.

You become the keeper of the high level’s secrets, the dirty works that he perpetuates off the public stage – those whom he has deceived and betrayed and cheated.  The high level  knows that you will not expose him because in exchange for your silence you are benefiting from the largesse of the lifestyle, your identity as an individual of influence and supreme importance.

Many partners of the high level narcissist are willing to make this deal.

They don’t realize at the time that they are giving vital parts of themselves away, diluting their creative energies,  exhausting their body/mind systems remaining in the sympathetic fight or flight nervous survival system, plagued with chronic insomnia, digestive disorders.

At a point of awakening you recognized that you are embroiled in a non relationship with an abusive, regressed high level narcissist. You have done the research and intuitively know that you can move forward along your pathway of the true original self.  Now you focus on the activation of your parasympathetic mode, the relax, rest, calming part of your body/mind system.  You put yourself first finally and feel tremendous energy physically, psychologically, mentally, creatively, spiritually.

Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.