Many people are so taken with the compelling, thrilling, seductive self image of the high level narcissist that they are incapable and unwilling to perceive these malevolent individuals for who they truly are – vile exploiters of those whom they psychologically and mentally control. With cunning, a contagion of charm and promises of worldly success, the high level narcissist moves through his/her days with ebullient confidence.
Their delusions of grandeur and perfection are seamless. Their upward trajectory can be explained by their obsession with self aggrandizement and lack of conscience. Now they are very clever when they go over and through moral issues that could mar their perfect personas.
They make sure that someone else is always blamed – often an associate or marital partner who doesn’t understand how virulent this personality is.
They do not suffer the burden of conscience. This work for them so well. Conscience requires a lot of work. It involves thinking about the welfare of others, making sure that we are making moral decisions.
This does not exist in the repertoire of the high level narcissist. Their obsessive focus is always themselves, what they are entitled to have, whom they will control, how much money and power they will acquire, how they will defeat their enemies – real and imagined, while maintaining an impeccable persona.
Having morals and a fine solid character do not apply to high level narcissists. These individuals are superbly over-entitled. They defy the rules – these apply to others whom they view as inferior in every way.
A quote from my book: Freeing yourself from the narcissist in your life summarizes these qualities:
“The narcissist has an incredible sense of self-entitlement. Everything is about him and belongs to him. He smoothly oversteps the personal boundaries of others, mistreating, devaluing and humiliating them to bend them to his will and his desires.”
As a result of your research and clear intuitive sight you see through the false personas, the true nature of the hypocritical high level narcissist. Whether you are the child of a high level narcissist or have been married to or partnered with one of them, you have opened your pathway to rediscovering the gifts and boons of your original true self.
Give yourself credit for your perseverance, courage, your strong belief in yourself, your mental and psychological stamina. Focus on yourself and movement into the restorative, calming pathways of the parasympathetic of self care and the full use of your unique creative gifts.
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.