The covert narcissist is a dark genius at re-victimizing his/her human targets. Whether you are married to or divorcing a covert narcissist, you feel riddled with terror and dread most of the time. You are stuck in the fight or flight, sympathetic nervous system zone and feel neither safety nor comfort.
I have spoken and communicated with many individuals who are suffering horribly – emotionally, psychologically, physically and spiritually as a result of the accumulation of stress and distress over years of being the object of vile, pernicious projections by the Covert. (This post refers to male and female covert narcissists.) The pain is deepened by the fact that the covert is gifted at concealing his multiple cruelties, manipulations and deceptions. Lies roll off of his tongue automatically and everyone believes him. You are always left holding the bag. Even your own family may not believe that you know and are telling the truth about this covert viper.
After listening carefully to your intuition and doing your research, have faith in yourself to take action to remove yourself from the hellish life that you are leading. You are in a no win, non-relationship. The covert narcissist cannot and will not change. It is your call to press the reset button and begin to make your plans in secret to leave this individual. Be careful about the people with whom you share this information. You will find a few individuals (even one is good) whom you can trust and who will support you.
Take time to appreciate who you are as an individual, a wonderful human being who deserves to lead a life in inner peace, freedom and emotional and psychological security.
Take time to do your form of prayer and meditation, listening to healing music, doing spontaneous writing, exercise in the way that works for you, getting the sleep that you deserve and taking rests when you need them. This is very important because you must fill up your reserves so that you will move through this period of your life to a new tempo, one that is calmer, kinder, beautiful and loving.
I know so many wonderful individuals who have taken this journey to freedom and dynamic peace. Climb aboard – We are waiting for you to ride with us.