High level narcissists commit cruel deeds of deceit and exploitation throughout their self absorbed, venal, conniving, exploitive lives. Filled with an extreme sense of entitlement they believe that they are better, smarter, more talented, clever, creative than anyone else.
High level narcissists are condemned to a fate of never knowing the truth, incapable of compassion and love, the gift of empathy, an authentic understanding of their real self. They remain fake, hollow, barren, empty, false, lost, disengaged, bleak inside. Are they suffering you ask? Not necessarily since they are “protected” by the defense mechanisms of denial, repression and projection. Is it fair to you that you suffer and they don’t. Of course not. Do these high level narcissists change. NO! Can your love for them cause them to change? NO! This perrsonality is very rigid and their titanium defense mechanisms work for them. Do they fool a lot of people—YES, most of the time.
Does the high level narcissist get away with multiple cruelties, transgressions and betrayals? YES!
We live in an age of hyper-narcissism where the sins and transgressions are acceptable, overlooked by the many, known clearly by the few who seek the truth about the high level’s their innate nature.
As a spouse or partner or child of a high level narcissist, you have been psychologically and emotionally abused. You didn’t deserve to be treated with such disdain, deception, exploitation.
You have observed, researched, analyzed this narcissist for many years and watched while he or she deceived and discarded you countless times.
Now you are clear about this person to whom you have given a pass too many times. Your awakening is here, the moment of clearest insight holds steady, your body/mind is grounded this time to make the decision to quit this non relationship and to redirect your energies, talents, inspirations, warmth, empathy to yourself where it belongs.
Now you have respite, calm, solitude that you deserve. This is where you belong. The beauties of Nature await your presence and participation, Remember self care each day: rest, sleep, hydration, nutrition, movement and exercise your way, music’s magic.
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.