Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., LMFT
You may have spent your childhood trying to get the respect and affection of one of your siblings. With an older brother or sister, the younger child often looks up to this individual as a model. The small child wants to be just like their older sibling. Some parents encourage this kind of veneration, especially … Continue reading “Healing from A Narcissistic Sibling”
There are some extraordinary human beings who survive growing up in a narcissistic family—-mother, father, siblings. I have heard from some of these individuals and their stories of multiple cruelties, emotional deprivation, scapegoating are the themes of fiction–but this is the truth. These are painful childhoods that have been endured each moment. In some cases … Continue reading “Surviving A Narcissistic Family”
There are some extraordinary human beings who survive growing up in a narcissistic family—mother, father, siblings–I have heard from some of these individuals and their stories of multiple cruelties, emotional deprivation, scapegoating one would think could be the themes of fiction—but this is the truth. Regardless of how well the adult who has endured and … Continue reading “Surviving the Narcissistic Family II”
The narcissistic mother, especially those who overpower their spouse and everyone in the household with the force of her will, treats her children like narcissistic supplies. Narcissistic mothers enhance their grandiosity and overblown sense of omnipotence by using their children to enhance their bloated egos and the elaborate false mask that they show the world. … Continue reading “Narcissistic Mothers-Their Children Are Narcissistic Supplies”
Each daughter of a narcissistic mother is unique. Her life experiences are specific to her but there are common psychological dilemmas daughters of narcissistic mothers share. As a small child she was never appreciated for herself as an individual. Even if she was the chosen one, the star of the family, this daughter was not … Continue reading “Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers—You Deserve to Heal Sooner than Later”
All of your life you have been told what to do by overbearing narcissistic family members. You find yourself in your thirties, forties and beyond still trying to please mother, father, sister, brother—the family narcissists. You have tried everything to please them, to make them proud of you, to always try your very best. It … Continue reading “Leaving Your Narcissistic Family–Appreciating Who You Are”
There are many material perks to being married to a narcissist who is successful in his/her career. There is the image that you were chosen by this accomplished, bright, socially skilled person to be his partner. Many spouses are swept into this role. Eventually the dazzle and bling for many begins to fade and the … Continue reading “Spouses Married to Narcissists—Step out of the Misery Role”
Narcissistic mothers have a lot in common but as individuals they have unique ways of psychologically poisoning their children. Some mothers choose a daughter (or son) who is beautiful, has natural charm, is very bright to groom to become a perfect image of themselves. Narcissistic mothers have severe boundary issues and do not respect and … Continue reading “Narcissistic Mothers—Psychologically Poison their Children”
Some narcissistic mothers hated you before you were born. They didn’t want children. They were obsessed with their careers and climbing to the very top. (Every woman who climbs to the top in her career is not a narcissist.) This often includes finding a man that will be a reflection of their perfection. Narcissistic women … Continue reading “Sadistic Narcissistic Mothers Aim Knives at Your Heart”
Some narcissistic mothers hated you before you were born. They didn’t want children. They were obsessed with their careers and climbing to the very top. (Every woman who climbs to the top in her career is not a narcissist.) This often includes finding a man that will be a reflection of their perfection. Narcissistic women … Continue reading “Sadistic Narcissistic Mothers Aim Knives at Your Heart”