Living without a conscience or empathy is so much easier, faster and more lucrative than having the encumbrances of a fine character. Narcissists go at full speed. It doesn’t matter how many people they hurt along the way—This includes their (often many) spouses and children.Narcissists don’t stare at the ceiling late at night thinking about their mistakes. They don’t regret that they have ruined their children psychologically, left ex-spouses in financial and emotional ruin. Narcissists are not like Lot’s wife who looked back and turned into a pillar of salt. They move forward at the highest speeds, going through every red light without getting caught.
Is there any justice—Can anyone see how dreadful and malicious these people are, the intractable harm that they perpetrate on others–spouses, ex-spouses, siblings, parents, partners, business associates. Most people are too dazzled by the image that the narcissist presents–the perfect act that they have been honing their entire lives that seamlessly works for them. At this time when being a narcissist pays huge dividends in the external world, it is not surprising that many are entranced and become followers of narcissists (especially those at the top of their game). They yearn to become part of the Inner Circle. They are willing slaves to the narcissist’s allure.
Let the adorers of narcissists go in their own direction. Let go of the narcissists in your life who have “succeeded” by stealth, cruelty, threats and dirty dealing. You have a conscience and deep empathy—You are a solid, real human being. You continue to grow psychologically and creatively. The road ahead is wide open–Take the reins; enjoy every moment of the ride. To learn about the narcissistic personality in-depth, visit my website:thenarcissitinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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