There are specific kinds of narcissistic sociopathic women who are groomed from childhood to believe that they are entitled to have or do anything they want. There are no limits placed on them. They don’t develop a conscience. Very early they learn how to cleverly take advantage and manipulate anyone and everyone in their environment to get their limitless needs for veneration, adulation and worship met. These woman are often narcissistic daddy’s girls at the beginning. Daddy is so obsessed with his little daughter that a rift occurs with his wife. A fateful triangle develops and his wife and the daughter’s mother is left out of the picture. It becomes a daddy and me portrait. Daddy and his daughter have an erotic tie although this in infrequently acted out sexually. She has become his psychological mate. Early on this daughter knows that she can get dad to do anything for her—even something very outrageous. When she begins to date she exploits teenage boys and then men through her good looks and sexuality to inflate her enormous ego with mother lodes of narcissistic supplies.
These women get a rush, a sexual one, but more importantly, a power rush when their complicated undulating scheme leading to the seduction of a man has worked perfectly. The sociopathic woman has her target in mind way ahead of time, sometimes for years. She knows exactly what she is going to do to “get this guy, to seduce him, to control him, to destroy him.” Beneath the surface this kind of sociopathic woman hates men. I call her a phallic woman. Although she freely uses her female organs and looks to seduce men, she carries a psychological phallus with her that can defeat any man. On an unconscious level, since childhood, she was forced to become a false self. She was adored for her look, her brightness, the force of her extroverted personality, not for her real self. On an unconscious level she seeks revenge and the taste of it is sweet when she has seduced a powerful man and unraveled his life. Forget that she is married with children. This is a small detail to her; they are part of her external persona, not her identity. They are living puppets who make her look good.
When the seduction is complete and the sociopathic woman has achieved total power over this man, she is high–celebrating her victory. Her man, her possession has been carefully picked for his stature, his power position in the world, monetary worth and high voltage connections. She doesn’t care if the affair is discovered and becomes public. The betrayal of her husband is a small footnote and her children are not a factor. When the liaison is discovered and goes viral, this is the fulfillment of her dreams. She has prevailed. These sociopathic women will do their victory dance, acquire all of the power and money and acclaim possible and then move on to the next man whom they can seduce, exploit and destroy. This dangerous game continues throughout her life. She is a predator and will never abandon this role.
The best way to deal with these sociopathic women is to learn to identify them immediately and to distance ourselves from them. To learn about the narcissistic personality and the narcissistic sociopath, visit my website: thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
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Im currently cutting off this type of woman, she tricked my brother, his friend, and some how I ended up with her for four yrs, she has punished me in ever way, THE nice sweet things that she do, is only to reel me back in for more punishment and feeling abandont
I knew this girl since we were 17 in high school together, I always knew there was something wrong with her. But I spent many years away from her, she contacted me when my mother was dying. Looking back I think she found out and used that to get to me. I would have never contacted her again, she got to me when I was vulnerable. I met her just to see her again and she came into my hotel room and jumped immediately into bed. I moved back to town, she had an incredible way of making me feel like we were compatible in every way, perfect together. Then I noticed her evil side, her guard dropped after the first year together and she would blurt things I just couldn’t imagine anyone saying She was married and had been for 17 years when we started seeing each other. She started putting oxycontin in his food and coffee. She told me one day just like she was talking about taking the kids to the park. It didn’t effect her at all, then I realized that it would be me she was victimizing in a few years, I was right. She literally went from eating dinner with me and going to a movie with me and her kids to acting as if she didn’t know me the very next day, she filed false stalking charges against me and a false ex parte against me saying I had raped her three times, I had even raped her in high school. If that were the case, then why did she get back in contact with me after 20 years. I have never hurt anyone in my life..she is going to jail for a few years for what she has done. I came back to procecute her to the fullest extent of the law I recommend that everyone do the same with these pieces of garbage.
I don’t know what to do with her ! We divorced 4 years ago and she took more than she thought of my wealth because I am good hearted ! She came back after 1 year , lived together again and around 2 years ago she left me . She us hurting me since then and torturing me , went through hill and now I am better after my Psycho sessions ! Finally found a good one to help me out ! But I am so sad for the kids ! 2 boys !! I don’t know how to stop her on annoying me by her actions , relations , ignorance of the kids and me as a father … She is so provocative !! Still suffering her actions .
Well then…
I have an ex that fits this topic to the T. At the time that we had met I was a young professional doing very well for myself. I was just out of a very complicated relationship and on the rebound. A life long friend introduced us. We hit it off like no other. Our sex drive was off the charts and we couldn’t get enough of each other in every way. With in 3 months we moved in together (I move in with her at her moms cause I had started traveling more), got engaged, and we got pregnant. Three months later things are not adding up. I am prior military and her “divorce” and financial support didn’t make sense. I started asking my friend and his wife(her sister) if she was still married. They said No. Well guess what, I pulled some old contacts and found out she was still married and carrying on a full blown relationship with her husband stationed in Cali.
During the next two years there where multiple times when other men would text her, email her, nude pics or videos of them together doing all the stuff we did in the bedroom.
It was never ending. She would beg me to come back just to do it all over again.
Two years.
During the last 2 years she hasn’t let me see my son. I have no idea where she is. But I still pay child support. Court system sucks and won’t do anything without me spending big money.
The last time she took me to court for more money and the judge cut my child support in half cause I changed careers, but her attorney never submitted the paper work.
Check this out, the day of our original court date she wanted to have sex in the parking lot after the court hearing got rescheduled. I declined and asked if i could see my son instead. Her response was maybe after the court stuff was finalized. (Cold blooded)
Needless to say the battle isn’t over yet.
This woman was a drain on my life emotionally, physically, financial, and mentally.
Since then I have been involved with a great ministry and have gotten the healing I have so longed for. It’s amazing what real truth can do for you. It’s not easy but definitely worth it.
Now one of my desire is to help those who have been it who are going through this make it through it.