The narcissistic sociopath has become more socially acceptable in our
current society. The goal to “win” at all costs has become the mantra
of our times. There is a distinct lack of conscience among many in the
business world whether we are talking about large corporations, banking,
finance, government projects, the defense industry, entertainment,
media, etc. There are tremendous exceptions of individuals who are very
successful in their careers who have a strong conscience, are highly
competent and very ethical. We are fortunate that these people are part
of our society today.
Once the narcissistic sociopath
has gained sufficient power in a large corporation he builds fiefdoms
that are under his absolute control. Some of these individuals
purposely become involved in intimate relationships with their superiors
and those above them, to make sure that they are protected from any
reprisals. The boss or super boss of the narcissistic sociopath is
vulnerable to be extorted as a result of an intimate relationship with
this person. There are instances in which the NS has video and listening
devices set up in advance of the sexual liaison. He or she can hold
this over the boss’s head indefinitely. The NS can threaten to go to the
wife or husband and blow the secret wide open. The NS plans to trap the
boss or ultra boss so he can run the table and be free to do whatever
he wants.
If you run across the narcissistic sociopath
in your work environment, keep your distance if you can. You don’t want
to become involved with one of these individuals under any
circumstances. If this person is a colleague, be polite and professional
and go about your business. If he or she is your boss, then you have a
decision to make. Eventually there is a chance this NS will want to get
you involved in one of his unethical and illegal schemes. When this time
comes, don’t be surprised, be prepared. You might want to work on a
lateral transfer to another department. Make your plans–save your money
to have in reserve. You might have to leave this job. It is not worth
being under the thumb of a NS. These people are very destructive to
everyone in their environment. Trust your intuition and listen to the
voice inside that tells you that you are in the presence of a malevolent
person, the narcissistic sociopath. Visit my website: thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com
I work very closely with one of these, it’s to the point where it scares me. Any advice on how to keep a positive workplace would be helpful. My boss thinks she’s the best thing ever because she only sees one side of her, she’s doesn’t deal with what I do on a daily basis.