Perception is everything to the narcissist. We are talking about the
perfection of the external image that is shown to the world. Narcissists
are incapable of introspection, self analysis, insight, compassion and a
whole host of attributes that make a person human.
There
are men and women who discover one another and fall for their mirror
image. They are lost in the spell of its beauty and impeccability. The
style, confident manner, social sophistication bring these two people
together. The narcissistic pair have the same goals to make it in the
material world, to become part of an elite group that is lionized and
has special privileges. They worship indulgence and obsessively find
pleasure in creating external environments of luxury and excess. The
must always have the best. They are competitive with others in seeking
more extravagance in their possessions, lifestyles and the company they
keep. They are never satisfied and continue to climb.
There
is nothing happening inside of these narcissists who have coupled.
Their inner world is bleak, restless, empty. Beneath the surface, in the
depths of the unconscious lies self loathing and feelings of
worthlessness. They are overcompensating on the outside for what they do
not have on the inside. Many people are impressed by successful
narcissistic couples, especially if they don’t recognize these
individuals as highly pathological. In fact, they are entranced. They
seek out their company and become followers and imitators of their
mentors.
Look beyond the glitter, entourages, perfect
environments, faces and bodies to recognize that there is nothing that
these people have to offer you. Research the narcissistic personality
and learn how they operate and what motivates them. Understand their
duplicity and betrayals, the way they make other people’s lives,
intolerable. Take a simpler road away from the glitter and sham they
have created and sell as real. Listen to the truth inside of you and
follow it. To learn about every facet of the narcissistic personality,
visit my website:thenarcissistinyourlife.com
Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.
Telephone Consultation: United States and International
Book: Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life
Email: lmlphd@thenarcissistinyourlife.com