THAT NARCISSIST YOU KNOW…
“The high-level narcissist marches through his many geographies, conquering new territories, multiplying his limitless control of the outside world and the lives of those who touch his. Excited followers anticipate his mood and moves, praying for a favorable word or glance. The chosen dwell within his cercle d’or, chanting hosannas to his greatness. While his audience is dazzled, the supernarcissist assesses each subject’s worth to him.
He plays upon their proclivities and weaknesses. Despite the years you have known him, the hard work you have done, the love that you express, the sacrifices you have made, the intimacies you believe you shared-eventually the narcissist will cut you off at the knees, even attempt to destroy you if he perceives you as an obstacle to his feverish drive toward ultimate power, control and omnipotence.” (from FREEING YOURSELF FROM THE NARCISSIST IN YOUR LIFE by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.)
Does this description sound like anybody that you know? Your spouse? Your boss? Your co-worker? So, how does one recognize a “truly toxic narcissist?” According to this insightful book there are certain signs to look out for:
Displays an extreme sense of grandiosity and superiority.
Is highly manipulative, exploitive, and deceptive in all of his relationships
Places his personal and professional needs over the needs of others.
Is captivated by his delusions of limitless power and perfection.
Easily lies without any qualm or guilt.
Is incapable of true empathy-the ability to deeply feel and appreciate another person’s emotional state.”
It was my misfortune to work with a fellow who fit every single one of these descritions. This book will help you to recognize this type of person before it is too late.
What makes them so dangerous? They only care about themselves.
Is this sounding familiar? Do you know one?
By Vick Mickunas - Book Nook - Daytondailynews.com - 1/14/08